It’s often easy and primarily over looked, when we find ourselves in good position, that is by falling into that category as being labeled, “That person.” Its even easier to become judgmental when others are going through, a not so good position in life. Ever wonder why? Why are most so judgmental and desensitized to the pain and misery of others? Why at times does it appear as though many actually get excited, when another  person is going through personal failures, trying times and or problematic circumstances? Let’s be honest, what’s that little voice in the back of our minds, when we first get bad news about that,“one particular” person at work. You know, that one coworker who finally gets caught and fired or worse yet, is suddenly getting divorced or maybe car repossessed at the most embarrassing time possible? Doesn’t make you necessarily a negative person but like most, we may have become a bit insensitive and or as previously mentioned desensitized to the welfare of others. Know that when a person is going through and you’ve become aware of it, is actually a blessing in disguise for both parties! Why? Because on one side if you’re blessed with good standing, it allows for the opportunity of more spiritual growth. On the other, the person going through witnesses the power of love, compassion and empathy at their most insecure and transparent moment in life. In this they can see first hand, a leadership by example as the body of christ reaches out to support them through their battle. It happens first by ignoring that, “Holier than thou”mentality that sneaks up behind you saying,”I knew it!” or “Hey, did you here about . . . ?” After distinguishing this little flame from becoming and all-out firestorm, defamation of character or community roast on your fellow mankind. Quickly give thanks for being in the privileged position in which you have the strength and mental clarity to be of help.

Not to forget, if you’ve survived what the person in need is stumbling through, it’s a spiritual duty to give a helping hand. ESPECIALLY if you’ve been helped yourself or know of resources of professionalism, friends, ministry or even the path you took to invoking pure will!  Know that these issues in life are what I call spiritual character building moments, and they are no different from the cleaning agent added to a washing machine. The detergent, that is the struggles of life is meant to be harsh, resisting the cycles and temperatures within the trials and tribulations as it turns, tumbles and rinses the dirt and miseries away.

Shame, shame if you take the opportunity to seize another’s “spiritual character building” moment to judge, ridicule or gossip. Wasn’t there a time when you were caught in a bad circumstance? Maybe made a foolish decision? Come on, remember when you were coerced into believing,“They wouldn’t tell or  it’s our little secret? Maybe there was simply a time when you made a difficult choice trying to fit in and you were inadvertently taken through years of struggle, say after trying drugs, alcohol, what about the residual affects of sexual or mental abuse. We often deem ourselves worthy but honestly we don’t fully understand how fragile the human mind, body and soul can be; nor do we know just how strong it can become. Due note the next time you or someone passes by a vagrant, the homeless or the like thereof, take a mental moment and focus your spiritual vibration on love for this person. Instead of judging the character in bondage, acknowledge their struggle to survive. Maybe it was post traumatic stress fighting for your freedom or beaten and incarcerated for years standing up for a just cause, Maybe they were born into a family of predators, who knows. Here’s a few things you can quickly acknowledge while passing by, they didn’t give up on life and jump off a building landing on your new car, rarely can I imagine this person pulling out a weapon to assault or rob you, neither can I envision this person seeking to verbally tear your spirit down in judgement for mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

I realize we’re in a judgmental world of Dr. Phil recordings, redundant reality television shows about housewives and man made hustlers of business or street wealth. Also, not to forget the overly sensationalistic soap operas, acronymic detective shows and created Hollywood dramas of who’s dating who and what’s in and out of fashion. Understand the big setup is to dilute our conscious way of thinking as believing we are better than everyone else! Imagine a city where everyone had it crammed into their minds that their better than all around them, absolutely nothing positive would develop of such thinking! It would only result into challenge and competition, everyone trying to outwork the next, look better than the next or out smart the next.

What’s left when mental barriers are suddenly faced with physical limitations, insecurities and fears? It most assuredly boil down to anarchy, that is who’s believed to be the so-called hierarchy and or physically strongest readily preparing for the fight, which is often the type who’s willing to kill for insecurities sake. Isn’t this what mentally happens when we choose to believe we’re better or superior over the weak and needy? You wanna know what true strength is? Talk to a woman that’s been raped or had an abortion and chose to pull her life together regardless of people’s opinion  or pain. Try asking an alcoholic or heroin addict what is was like going withdrawals and struggling to get their family back. What of a person who’s dealt with a sudden loss, in either finance, family or health, yet chooses not to turn their back on God’s overall purpose. Here’s a quick thought, the next time a person of interest less fortunate than most start to plead, lie or does“whatever”to manipulate you while in their struggling state, ask yourself if you could do better? Most often the average person can resist a sugary treat even though they know its not whats the doctor prescribed, let alone trying to overcome depression or any other mental disease, health wise or spiritually.

Honestly, can you be a better human being in the circumstance of temporary mental capacity loss? Would you choose to beg, borrow or steal as opposed to committing murder for your next fix, hunger pain or greed? Here’s what I’ve come to learn as I became enlightened, Judge not because not everyone is strong enough to handle certain burdens in life. Maybe, just maybe God created them to be stronger, because they actually have the strength to overcome the adversity! And in doing so keep you focused and humble while presenting the opportunity for you to be a blessing yourself. Know that when I say being a blessing, I’m talking about the affordability of real, physical sacrifice. I’m not just talking about praying and hoping someone would “get better,” but actually becoming hands-on as to physically find a safe way to inspire. If they have a flat for instance use your AAA, if they are down and out and need money for clothes to find work, ask them their clothes or shoe size!

Please don’t fall into that, “Waste of time” gossiping about their unfortunate issues, after all maybe you’re not afflicted because you lack the strength to overcome? Point is we don’t really know who we are or who we’ll become in the mist of the struggle. That is until darkness has fallen, and suddenly we find ourselves stuck between a rock and a hard place, as the water level within this bind starts to rise. Want to know what’s a real shame? Having the complete use of your mind, bodily functions, resources financially and spiritually, yet choosing to ignore, gossip or point the finger at another human being for their personal stumbling blocks, financial circumstances, or failures. No one  grows up saying, “I want to fall into depression, become a prostitute (this includes on the street, in a relationship or within the work environment!), drug addict or alcoholic, to name a few, being that life affects people on so many levels. Seriously, can you imagine what’s it like to be that person going through? Or do you simply, yet inadvertently deviate to being “that one person” of sound mind and body, judging  another for their misguided choices or non-choice of lifestyle? Please, if we’re going to rise our state of mind to that of christ consciousness, a society of true clarity or the peacefulness of enlightenment, please for the sake of his mercy bestowed unto you; don’t be “THAT PERSON.”

*In reference to the title “PLEASE DON’T BE, THAT PERSON.” Know that the people going through the struggle didn’t choose this particular way of life. So in reference to the choice of “being,” reflects on the judgmental choosing to ridicule, not the person in need. Furthermore, this could also include the people “of struggle,” as the functional alcoholic, the misguided other woman or man, thinking the adulterer is actually getting divorced. Maybe the soul of a person spiritually dying in a relationship for financial, low self esteem  or security issues! Remember the “down and out” doesn’t have to look the part, just make sure you’re NOT the one judging; being this is a win-win for the demonically influenced. Remember this is a transformational website, assisting those who seek enlightenment to the path of their God created purpose. This starts by clearing your mind of embedded clutter, know that focusing on yourself and not others will expedite your destiny of abundance, peace and wealth.

God’s favor, mercy and love be with you always.

– zoeylifesite team