Wow! I must be psychic, or something!

Photo by Emily Szucs Photography
Today I woke up early with a reinvigorating sense of self, not so surprising in my daily activities but today was slightly different. I felt a flow going through my body, that could only be described as an overwhelming abundance of confidence! Oddly enough I changed a few of my morning routines because today I felt, “as long as I clock in on time all would be well.” So, my morning starts and immediately, I bypass the television, turn the coffee on, let the dog out while simultaneously taking out the trash! On the way back in I straighten up the living room; being the triplets played pillow-wrestle mania as well as hide “ALL” the remote controls the night before. I then had the urge to change the toilet paper rolls, pickup the scattered dirty clothes from bathroom to the living room, all while brushing my teeth. When this was complete, I scampered off to work but suddenly felt the need to slowdown as I yielded to a speeding car that was tailgating me. It wasn’t five seconds afterwards before the shrieking lights and sounds of a police car appeared from seemingly nowhere, rushes up and passed me pulling over the guy that just sped by. “Whoa,” I thought to myself, “that would have been me!” Such is the equation of life, either way I arrive at work seconds from being late and my supervisor says, “Hey reg! you’re off today, unless you want to stay?” Immediately that confident flow kicked in as I replied, “Nope, I have something I need to do!” So, off I went but decided to go to the store and get some of my “honey to-do-list” items while purchasing some flowers. I quietly enter my home, set the flowers up and start making breakfast. Soon after I got the babies morning cups together, made sure they went to potty as we cuddled together on the couch to watch the peanut movie. About thirty minutes had passed and the sweet robust aroma of coffee, awakens my wife as she was confused to why she overslept. Moments later I apologized if my turning off her cellphone alarm caused anxiety, but I wanted her to sleep in. She looks at the kids and I all snuggled together, bellies full and relaxed but before she utters a word I say, “Baby your breakfast is in the oven,” as she smiles while holding the stem of the flower gently pressing the pedals to her nose. She then pours her coffee, grabs a blanket and snuggles in and gives me a look of the most innocence of beautiful admiration and says, “reggie, how in the world did you know?” I replied “baby, it’s not in the world that I know anything, rather it’s the love of my heart and within it, I may know just a few things, being it’s what I’d want to do for myself.” Simply put, If you have the strength to stand, you have the ability to help another that has fallen. In this humble sacrifice of self, relies the true power of God’s mercy.”
Mathew 7:12 ESV “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them . . .”

Happiness is Infectious?


Photo by Emily Szucs Photography


Say what? Happiness is infectious!

Yep! Coupled with appreciation, humbleness and a willingness to help others, a happy disposition actually promotes health, healing and fulfillment in life! So what’s changed? Absolutely nothing, it’s still there! But for some, may have unknowingly allowed their perception of happiness to be altered. For instance here’s a simply equation, healthy mind-healthy body. Depending on what you allow in your head can either be a benefit or a hindrance. This is to say if your morning consist of taking in overstimulated drama shows, sensationalistic media coverage and hours of gossip or complaining, chances are you’re swiftly becoming the embodiment of what’s being embedded in your mind. Good thing is there’s a turnaround! Good rest the night before, inspirational programs or meditation in the am or taking a walk through nature. Even at work, turn from the negative water cooler talk, programs and others searching to steal your joy. Try looking out into nature if needed, maybe talk to a “positive” coworker or supervisor about future advancement or plan to watch some good-humored comedy later on in the day. Personally, I found helping and laughing with others dramatically increased my happiness, not to forget finding that one special person that laughs at, around and often with you. Before you know it, you’ll find out just how infectious happiness can be. So become contagious with happiness and infect others with your gracious attitude, as it’s sure to promote positive return. Lastly, with total admiration and humbleness in our hearts, we at zoeylifesite want to express to you our deepest thanks and appreciation for taking time and visiting; journey well friends!


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Ever noticed how people go out of their way trying to convince others who they are? Or better yet who they envision themselves to be? Everybody wants some form of acceptance and I get it, but there comes a point when we must hold ourselves accountable, regarding the results of our actions; not cast blame when things don’t particularly go their way. Most blame the world, boss or spouse and not to forget blaming the devil. Really? The devil holds no power over your life whatsoever, he’s been out of commission since christ died and rose again, over 2000 years ago!

Know the only residual effects of his insidious nature remains in the cluttered perceptions of the mind. To identify this clutter more specifically would be that of  fear, guilt, temptation as well as the misperception of self worth. This in turn leads to trying to validate oneself, in order to fill the gaps of the aforementioned “clutter”within the mind. Of course this doesn’t apply to all, at any specific given time but rather throughout our course in life, especially the difficult moments when most are struggling for answers.

If you find yourself in this category or become aware of someone else pushing themselves on others to validate a certain perception, again often created to solidify or pacify their overconfidence or insecurities. Be forgiving and show empathy; were all at some point in time struggling to find our way. Also be aware of “the blind leading the blind,”circumstances. This is where issues arise from people trying to fill the gaps from others searching to do the same. Only problem is if “birds of a feather flock together,” where does new perspectives come from? In other words, there is no “real” growth if the misinformed content of the mind is being shared back and forth within a group or relationship.

This eventually leads to  the creation of false perceptions, desperately trying to validate themselves by filling an unexplained void in their purpose. Here’s my point, you were validated more than worthy since the moment you were conceived in the womb! We that have been born into this world was chosen victorious out of over 180 million sperm cells! All equipped with an insatiable  zest for life. But somewhere along the way most have changed from who they were meant to be, to that of the false perceptions of the world. A woman starving herself to skin and bones to become a model, when she was created and  anointed to be a district attorney.

A man created to father and raise the greatest president of our nation but chose to turn and barrel through, obtaining a Ph.D. and a hundred thousand dollars in school loans. In this, using all his God given ability to obtain a plaque on a wall, they’ll one day be boxed away shoved somewhere in an attic waiting a garage sale. Understand that we posses the strength and will to become whatever we want, but there’s no guarantee that we’ll be happy after achieving that goal. This is why finding our purpose is detrimental to the conducive lifestyle planned for our happiness.  It is my absolute confidence that you’ll find who you were created to be, upon transforming into an abundant lifestyle. Find your natural favor in life, not in the person you or someone else believes you to be, but reconnect to that carefree calling, embedded in your soul since childhood.

Seek within yourself before trying to validate through another’s perceptions, please take my word; you are amazing! If you’re happy, stay happy but if there’s the slightest inclination of doubt, that you’re not on the right path? Find a way to course correct by either praying for a worthy confidant, honest mentor or utilize trust within our website.

I found my way by submitting to a higher power but that’s just my character when it involves the mercy and blessed favor of God. What’s your character like? Do you feel the need for it to be validated? From my point of view and with all the love in my heart, I acknowledge you to be the greatest most spectacular person God created you to be, but that’s just my opinion; what’s yours? Please accept that you are in fact validated, blessed and purposely filled every moment you wake into a new day.  Stay blessed and enjoy this process, because you are without doubt on the right path.

Thank you for sharing in the”Thought of the Week,” and feel free to email or leave a comment! We at zoeylifesite appreciate any and all feedback you’d like to share, being it helps assist in our transformational growth together.

Thank you


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Hey how’s it going?
Really, you don’t know who I am?
You can’t remember? I get it life is hard with all its stressors and things.
I’m kind of surprised you don’t remember, I’m that statistic you bypassed at the park, that day when I was contemplating suicide. Remember, they issued a heat advisory?  Stating that the combination of heat and humidity was going to make it feel in upwards of 104 degrees?  I was the guy still standing on the basketball court. I remember because hours later you came rushing back in a panic, only to find your wallet still on the bench where you left it. I remember that inquisitive look you gave me but chose not to utter a word. Probably figured I didn’t see it but truth be told, it actually saved my life. So in fact, it is I who should be thanking you! Understand that, at one of the darkest times in my life, you came along and gave me something different to think about; something noble to protect. This inadvertently ignited a deeply embedded purpose I’d forgotten about. Being I envisioned you’d soon racing back, to find your money filled wallet, right where you left it. I imagined you’d look at me and I’d look back and share that noble chin up men has developed over the years to replace the humble words of thank you. Turns out the look was not so admirable. It was more apprehensive and standoffish as you pulled off, quickly locking your door. In fact it was kind of hilarious being the distance between us, was a least  25 yards! I mean really, the fact that you took the initiative to make sure, that I knew, you were locking the door. Really? You can’t remember that? I get it life is hard and to top it off, it was really hot that day.  Either way if you ever recall or find yourself wondering, here’s what you missed. Seconds later, I passed out on the court from dehydration. I knew I was hurting minutes prior, when the sweat appeared to reverse up my forehead and absorb back into my pores. I’ll never forget that blistering feeling of crisp, painful to the touch glazed across my head. I mean why was I complaining, I’d so called made up my mind to die that day anyway. So here’s what actually happen, I slept. Slowly fading away only to hear the faint beat of my heart slowly drifting into the darkness on that hot, scorching day. I was face down on the court, bugs crawling around the reminiscence of saliva dried up from my mouth; not a good feeling. Hours later, I found my self struggling to get up to my knees. The bitter taste of scorched salt covered my tongue to the point where I couldn’t even swallow; let alone utter praise to God for sparing my life. Feeling completely drained I soon found myself staggering in the direction of the only water faucet at the far end of the court. Only upon reaching that destination of course many minutes away, the faucet didn’t work. All I got was the sounds of air clanking through the rusty pipes calcified with lime. I learned two major things, upon many that day.  First death by dehydration is ignorantly redundant, pathetically selfish and painfully ineffective, not that I’d ever condone such an insecure act. Secondly, black people apparently can get a sunburn, not good! I’m now far more understanding when I slap my lighter skinned buddies on the shoulder after an over exposed day at the beach. Needless to say, I survived that day, only there were so many days just like that one. I’m guessing that’s the life of the depressed, mentally challenged or homeless person that may or may not be contemplating given up, but that’s just my experience. Here’s the not so funny thing, at this point in my life I had a job working with the state, a small culinary business on the side and the choice of one or two women I could’ve shacked up with. Also I had a few thousand dollars in the bank but what does that mean, when your mind isn’t right. I was currently married but moved out months prior, officially making up my mind to file for dissolution of marriage. It was my choice to live cramped in a van, to wash up at work and fall asleep at the Y until closing. My choice as irrational as it turned out to be, was to just give up on the things I couldn’t figure out; only  thing was that wasn’t my created purpose. We, by way of free will can choose to override our blessings and just give in submitting to our fears, but this doesn’t have to be. Know that I was a functional depressant, fake smiling when I clocked in and fake laughing as I left, but hey we all got issues right?  I understand if you don’t remember that day, I mean it was really hot and I get it; life is hard. But It shouldn’t be so hard as to forget to say a kind word for a kind act. I say this because you never know, how important it is to someone, just by showing a little appreciation. So with all this said and done, memory or not I wanted to say; thank you.