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Think about it and I’ll try to keep this one short. When did friends become followers and followers become stalkers? Whether originally just being cordial upon accepting that friend request, exercising polite mannerism or simply trying to support one another, when or where did the disconnect regarding interpersonal communication happen?

I can only share my opinion but know, my opinions arise from deep spiritual thought and meditation, cultivated and prayed over for a great period of time. Here’s where I believe the disconnect happens, at the start of accepting a friendship that wasn’t developed out of love, care or concern! What if I told you the master plan was to “get people to share their personal information, market, advertise and sell-sell-sale!”

Think about it, If I originally had a product or influenced based idea to market and wanted mass distribution, without doing my own footwork for greed of capital, distribution or reach, what better way to come up with a system to persuade people to do the work for free! Simply by messaging  or massaging one’s ego, they can become powerful tools by adding contacts per personal request.

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From friends to family, old acquaintances and so-forth, somehow we went from being friends to followers, followers to stalkers and ultimately sellers of mass marketing! This is why most people begrudgingly hit “like,” even when they didn’t fully read a friends or followers text. All leading up to the inevitable “I know not all will read this but send, share or comment if you’re really my friend” scenario.

Ever glanced over (yet another story) of someone’s success, pain or personal vent, just to put up an emoji of acknowledgement? How about not truly feeling the connection or care to even call the friend or follower to personally congratulate, console or commune with them? If so, It’s not your fault or mine for that matter but it is a sign of the times.

Need a quick example? Here’s how misconstrued communication has developed, have you ever responded to someones birthday by using just the acronym HBD, an emoji birthday cake or because you were too busy scrolling to text Happy Birthday, I love you friend!? How about not even knowing it was “your friend’s birthday in the first place, until a media-influence based algorithm, reminded you “let such-in-so know you’re thinking about them . . .” Come on, most are too busy or could care less, but just as with any failed relationship, people tend to just go through the motions anyway; being they were falsely conditioned from the start.

I’m not saying it’s a bad thing or even you’re a bad person but again, let’s be honest! To the women, If at the beginning of your engagement, your soon-to-be sent you a diamond emoji ring, popped the question, with celebratory flowers and a teddy bear, that’s not the same as a man submitting on one knee, asking for your hand in marriage. Not to forget professing his unconditional love for you in the company of many witnesses! If I’m wrong, I’d might as well emoji my mortgage company, a fist full of dollars paired with a happy face stating “paid in full!” Lets just see where that relationship takes us! 

Thinking about it, no one cares to be sold on a friendship, especially when it feels more-so about egoism, the number of friends or followers personally acquired, and or the immediate release of information as constituents for third party contacts; better known as advertisers! 

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Go ahead, please prove my dismal understanding wrong regarding the fall of communication. And worst yet don’t even call them, let them call you! Give them a day, 72 hours or even a week, how many authentic calls do you receive from your media influenced contacts?

Out of the boasted hundreds or even thousands of friends and followers, are we really making a difference in others lives or have we become the hands and feet of media influenced propaganda, all about the sale, egoism and ultimately stalkers of sensationalism. In this, equaling the sum total of society’s personal information.

Bottom line, when did friends become followers and followers become stalkers? I’m thinking the day we personalized ourselves as media-influenced idols, as opposed to shaking hands, getting out and trying new things and or sharing in-person conversations to establish compatibility.

In all what am I trying to say? Let’s start over. Is there anything you feel I can help you with? Is there a resource of kindness, information or inspiration we can empower each other by opening up and sharing? Would you like to be friends?

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I ask this because I’m in the spiritual business of course correction by way of the living word of God. I’m a leader by example but please know, I’m not looking for followers, I’m looking for believers! Not to do my will but the will of God, and in doing so creating leaders as well.

It is my faith and focused prayer, that we in society re-establish a true friendship in lifestyle; not to recruit friends to become followers and so on. Lastly, I know you’re not a robot, so you don’t have to hit like or send an emoji. Just pick up the phone and re-establish the essence of friendship with someone of choice. I love you friend, God bless.

Reginald O’Neal Gibson